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dealing with compliments that may insult others?

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I help my friend with her health problems. She has a nurse come over to her house sometimes when I’m there and she’ll say in front of the nurse that I am just as good as a real nurse. I’ll take her to the doctor and she will tell the doctor I am just as good as a doctor.

I say, “thank you” but really.. it might offend the doctor and nurse to hear this stuff. I’m lots of help yes but I am no nurse nor doctor. No professional health care training at all.

Do you think I should just say “thank you” or is there something I can say to assure the doctor and nurse that we don’t REALLY think I am not as good as them? To give them a little credit I mean… it is actually an insult to them that someone with no training would in their presense be said to be as good as them.

BTW I HAVE asked the friend to stop doing it but she forgets..

Thanks!

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8 Responses to “dealing with compliments that may insult others?”

  1. x_daisychains_x on March 29th, 2009 12:59 am

    Well you can say thank you to your friend but when you’re just leaving the doctors or the nurse is leaving then go up to them and personally thank them. That way they get the credit they deserve.

  2. notyou311 on March 31st, 2009 9:33 pm

    Speak up when she does that. “Oh, that’s so sweet but I am in no way as good as a Dr. or nurse. I have no training at all.”
    Your friend appreciates your help but she is thanking you in the wrong way. Mention it to her when you are alone with her.

    I doubt that it really bothers her Dr. or her nurse. They are understanding people.

  3. All Love on April 2nd, 2009 9:45 pm

    I don’t htink this will offend a Dr or nurse, but just say thanks but I believe that Dr or nurse soso is doning a much better job than I could ever do I just enjoy my job as being a great and loyal friend.

  4. v.ley@sbcglobal.net on April 4th, 2009 4:07 am

    Laugh it off as a joke, then before leaving that particular premise, apologise for your friend on your own behalf. You really don’t want the Nurses & Doctors thinking you personally might feel that way, too. She obviously values your help and friendship, but try to remind her how embarrassed it makes you or inappropiate it is to say. Good luck and don’t stop helping others, what a wonderful thing to do.

  5. pynk_deville on April 6th, 2009 12:20 am

    i dont think the nurses or doctors will think anything of it…your friend has health issues and is delighted to have you…im sure nurses and doctors she both sides of the story all the time the person who has no one versus the person who does. i would think that they think it a delight to see you so helpful if anything so i wouldnt worry about it unless you get the impression that these doctors and nurses are offended or put off by your friends comments then i would go with what x daisy said.

  6. lovinlabs2006 on April 7th, 2009 12:20 am

    just say thanks i try my best but nothing compared to you guys honestly

  7. marcia f on April 7th, 2009 9:58 pm

    Doctor’s and nurses are well educated people. They certainly know that your not a better doctor or nurse than them. They know that your friend is very fond of you and is basically saying that she doesn’t know what she would do without you. I’m pretty sure that she does not hurt the doctor or nurses feelings. Just let it go.

  8. Ann M on April 8th, 2009 4:45 am

    you could say “I wish” or something along that order and smile.